Chapter-8 : Interpersonal Relationship Stages and Theories

Relationship stages consists of :

• Contact - perceptual (human senses : sight, smell, taste, hear and touch)  and interactional contact take place. 
• Involvement - testing (asking about other's interests, favourite things and colours and so on) and intensifying (the amount of time committed to others) stages take place.
                     - bond and engagements are become tighter. 
• Intimacy - interpersonal commitment and social bond  takes place
                 - become more familiar each others and closed to him/her
• Deterioration - the relationship become weaker in this stage.
• Repair - try to fix the problem or to maintain the interpersonal and intraperonal communication.
• Dissolution - the bond and relationship are broken in this stage. It cannot be fixed anymore. 

Relationship Theories involved : 

1.  Attraction Theory
   People become attracted because of their similarity (same taste, belief or idea), proximity (closeness), reinforcement (increase the personality and lifestyle), and physical attractiveness and personality.
2. Relationship Rules Theory
• Friendship Rules - roles and rules between friends and tasks what a friend should do
• Romantic Rules - similar to friendship rules; but more for lovers and couples. 
• Family Rules - rules and roles within a family (e.g. father's role, mother's role)
• Workplace Rules - roles and rules between coworkers, boss and employees. 
3. Relationship Dialectics Theory
• Closeness and openness - exclusive relationship 
• Autonomy and connection -  have independency and dependency
• novelty and predictability - competing desires for newness different experiences 
4. Social Penetration Theory
   The depth of the relationship (either friends or lovers) involves the degree to which they penetrate the inner personality. The more we know the person, the deeper the relationship.
5. Social Exchange Theory
   This type of relationship will maximize the profits.(rewards > costs). That means the one you received from other is more than the things you give to him/her. 
6. Equity Theory
   In this relationship, giving and receiving is equal or balance. (reward = cost)

Types of Jealousy
Jealous is the feeling people have when their relationship is in danger due to some rival.

1. Cognitive jealousy - concerns with our mind and thinking(suspicious) and worrying 
2. Emotional jealousy - jealous feeling through their partners' emotions 
3. Behavourial jealousy - physical response to the jealous feeling or emotions

Relationship Violence 

• Physical Abuse
• Verbal or emotional abuse
• Sexual abuse